His Crazy Faithfulness

Hi loves, 

I promise, I promise - I am still a blogger. The past few months have been a whirlwind of things from weddings, repaired friendships, learning the art of patience, completing my first  year of graduate school, fulfilled promises, healed wounds, moving to a new city, and entering into a relationship. 

He. Is. Crazy. Faithful 

I heard Heather Lindsey say these words over 4 years ago as God beckoned me to draw closer after I tried finding purpose in things that failed me. 

For me, these past few months have greatly shown me how beautiful God is and how marvelous His works are. I've learned that I can't walk by my emotions, the things I can or cannot see, circumstances, thoughts, the reactions of others. Honestly, close to three years ago, I was in a period where I didn't understand why certain things happened in many aspects of my life. It was downright frustrating because the way I envisioned my life was NOT how it was working out. Yes, I recognized I was blessed in certain aspects, but I couldn't see how God was working in my life. When I made the choice to wholeheartedly follow Jesus, I didn't realize God would take me on a faith journey.

I am literally in awe at how God has opened many doors that I thought closed in my face three years ago. None of this is because I am more "blessed" or because I did the "right" things, I realized that it is simply because God calls us to truly and fully lay every situation at His feet. It means believing for that next step even when you can't even fathom how to maneuver. Three years ago, I used to cry myself to sleep not understanding why I was called to do a certain job, live in a certain city, make new friends, find a new church, anxiously wait as a single woman.

I just want to encourage one person to believe in His faithfulness. No matter how big the vision, how crazy the promise, or how delayed these things may seem - trust that His faithfulness is soooo crazy that He and He alone can make these things work out. He does these things NOT for me or for you, but for HIS purpose and His glory. None of these things are about me. Yes, I may be happy, but I ultimately want to lay them back at His feet for Him to do His will with them <3 . Friends, this isn't about us - it is about giving the Kingdom so much glory with our lives, jobs, relationships, hobbies. 

 Trust that yes, even though a dream, vision, or a promise may seem a little irrational, nothing is impossible with His crazy faithfulness <3

Beauty Reviews in 3s (#1 - Giorgio Armani, Lancôme and NARS)

Giorgio Armani Luminessence CC Cream  - I always have a hard time saying no to lightweight, sheer bases. Tinted moisturizers, BB Creams, CC Creams, Sheer foundations, whatever you want to call them, I'm all in. I stumbled upon the Giorgio Armani Luminessence CC Cream about a month ago and immediately needed it. This product claims to give skin a "well rested appearance", make the complexion look more radiant, protect with SPF 35, color correct, and is infused with "an energizing antioxidant complex that's enriched with jojoba and macadamia nut oils" (Sephora). I have this in the shade number 6, which I initially thought would be too dark for me, but is actually perfect. If you are familiar with Mac foundation shades, I range between an NC35 and NC40, for reference. However, that is one of my cons for this product; there are only 6 shades, 6 of course being the darkest. I'm not dark skinned at all, so for this to be the darkest shade is quite frankly a shame. A wider range of people should be able to experience how lovely this product actually is, from the palest to the darkest skins, but I digress. The texture of this cream is smooth and thin which makes it easy to apply. I apply this with the Real Techniques Buffing Brush to really work this into the skin. Then I use the Real Techniques Stippling Brush to build up more product where I want more coverage. Even though this is a sheer to light coverage cream, I find that it color corrects and builds nicely, whilst never getting cakey or heavy on the skin. I have hyper-pigmentation on my cheeks due to past breakouts (thank you hormones) and I'm really pleased with how much this evens out my skin tone. It's not perfect, but I'm not aiming for perfection. I just want my skin to look like a healthier, more even toned version of what it is, and this product does just that. This CC cream is also luminous, as the name would suggest, without being shiny or greasy. I have oily skin, but I prefer bases that are luminous because I find them to be more natural and youthful looking. This product does not exacerbate my oiliness. I do have to blot a little throughout the day, but I have to do that with everything, so I'm not bothered. Also, for such a lightweight base, this lasts quite a while on the skin. I can wear it for an entire work day without it breaking down oddly or going away in patches. It does breakdown, but it somehow just evenly wears away, and on me, only towards the end of my day (keep in mind that I ALWAYS set any base with a powder to extend longevity). This doesn't accentuate dryness, or highlight imperfections. It just looks like skin and feels as if I'm not even wearing makeup. In other words, it never feels heavy or uncomfortable. It's lightly scented, but nothing cloying or overwhelming. The scent is light and fresh and does not linger. I could go on about this product for ages, but I'll spare you. Let me leave you with this, since purchasing this, it's the only foundation/tinted moisturizer/base product I want to reach for and it's actually become one of my favorites. This is pricey at $55 for a 1.01 ounce tube and I was fortunate to find my shade on eBay for quite a bit less (never underestimate ebay!). To be honest, once I run out of this I wouldn't hesitate to pay full price. It really is that lovely.

Lancôme Tonique Radiance Clarifying Exfoliating Toner - I go through toner like a crazy person. I use it morning and night so every few months I need to purchase a new bottle. I was in a toner rut and wanted to try something new and stumbled upon Lancôme Tonique Radiance. Let me just be upfront. I DESPISE this product! There is not a thesaurus large enough to help me describe how much I hate, loathe, abhor, this toner. This claims to "help support natural cell turnover to improve skin tone, texture and clarity." Oh, how thee sits on a throne of lies! The only thing this toner gave me was cystic acne. No kidding, my skin broke out in these painful, large, cystic bumps. Just what I want, little Mount Fujis resting on my face. NOT! I had such high hopes for this, because overall, it has high reviews. I don't know what it is, but my skin really did not get along with this product. It is heavily fragranced, which I initially didn't care for. It also has such a high alcohol content that it's almost eye-watering. For a $26 product I'm expecting something more than fragranced alcohol. Now, I'm not the biggest fan of alcohol in toners, but it is quite common and I have used some that my skin really gets on well with. Hey, if it works, it works. I can overlook the ingredients. I have used $6 toners from the drugstore that actually treat, and prevent breakouts, unlike this spawn of Satan. Save your pennies and look elsewhere people. Don't be suckered in by the luxurious packaging and fancy French. This little guy is like a wolf in sheep's clothing. 
I could probably use the remaining product that I have as a weapon. Don't even try to kidnap me. I've got Tonique Radiance in my purse and I'm not afraid to pour it on you! "It burns us, Precious!"

NARS Translucent Crystal Light Reflecting Setting Powder (Pressed) - Let's end on a positive note, shall we? I was searching for a setting powder that was lightweight, not mattifying, but still properly set my makeup without altering the finish of whatever base I wore underneath. For a while, my holy grail setting powder was the Rimmel Stay Matte , but I actually find it to be too heavy looking on my skin. I have very soft skin that can easily look overdone. Powders can especially look cakey on my face. I kept hearing wonderful thing about this NARS Ridiculously Long Name Powder but shied away from it for a while because of the price. I mean, $37 for a powder? I THINK NOT! But I was really getting fed up with the Rimmel looking heavy on me (still holy grail underneath the eyes though, peeps. This is a good powder. Go get you some.) and did a little eBay search. WHAT?! $24!? Yes, please. Put it in my cart. Mail it to me and then get on my face. Seriously, one of the best $24 in makeup spent. This powder is so lightweight, when I apply this I can't even see it on my powder brush and it feels like I'm sweeping nothing on my skin. It doesn't mattify the skin, so the integrity of the finish of whatever base this is applied over isn't completely compromised. This is literally invisible on the skin. But when I touch my face after application I can feel that my makeup has been properly set. I get the same longevity with this product as I do with the Rimmel Stay Matte and I don't get shiny or oily any sooner than I normally would with the Stay Matte. The Rimmel sets makeup well and does offer good oil control, though I still need to blot with it. I get the same benefits with the NARS powder without my makeup looking heavy. If you are weary of face powders. but still want to set your makeup to increase its wear time, I highly recommend that you look into this little gem by NARS. It is really something exceptional and it has become my absolute favorite face powder. NARS, you've done it again. You've reached into my wallet and took my money and I don't regret it one bit. I say, "Take it again!"

Always, 

Alana 

Same Jacket and Shoes - Two Different Ways

Hi everyone! I hope your first week of the year was marvelous! Mines has been really great so far and I am so excited to see what God will do in my life. I am learning to listen, embrace a quiet spirit, and accepting the change<3

This weekend I really flocked to a certain jacket and heels. My mom purchased a AEO moto jacket from Marshalls a few years ago for $15 dollars and it's been a huge staple in my closet. I purchased a pair of nude heels a few months back at the J.Crew Clearance Center in Lynchburg. 

As you all know, I haven't been buying clothes over the last few months. I promised myself that I would experiment with the clothing I already have. With the exception of 4 staple items from Gap, I successfully achieved just that. 

This weekend, I helped throw a bridal shower for a long time friend. I am incredibly happy for her and it was such a blessing to celebrate her. I decided to wear red to match the colors of bridal shower.

For the bridal shower, I paired the jacket and  heels with a striped shirt I purchased 3 or 4 years ago from Aeropostale and a Mario Serrani full skirt that I purchased from Marshalls last winter! I absolutely love this skirt. It fits well and doesn't swallow me hahaha. 

In addition, I wore my Ann Taylor Pearlized Crystal Statement Necklace , which I purchased last winter for super cheap (around 22 dollars). It is currently on sale for 50% off on the website. 

Today, I switched it up for church! I wore my chambray top from The Loft which I purchase two years ago, my American Eagle ripped jeggings which were a gift from my lovely sister:) In addition, I wore a cheetah print belt courtesy of my mother's closet. 

I really love how versatile this jacket and heels are! They really add style to anything you put on. In addition, these two outfits really manifest power of staple clothing items. All of these items (with the exception of the belt) were purchased over the span of 4 years and they can be worn many different ways and in many different occasions.  I am learning that I don't have to purchase clothes every month. My lifestyle has changed since I've been in graduate school and I no longer have a full-time job. In this season of my life, my personal style comes from utilizing what's around me and being creative. 

Thanks for stopping by and reading <3 

xoxo,

Tonyette

& Me

Esther saved her people.

Hannah made a vow.

Mary birthed the King of Kings.

Ruth was a loyal friend.

I just wanted to stop by and tell a little of my story for the And Me, which is a campaign created by Kellee and her husband Dave. I've been following their story since Jan 1, 2015 after their elopement was posted on Munaluchi Bride's instagram. I was  deeply inspired for their love for Jesus and one another. When Kellee announced this campaign in December, I jumped at the opportunity to purchase one for my sis and I! I posted a picture in this shirt last week at Intervarsity's Urbana 2015 in St. Louis, but I didn't have an opportunity to tell my story in the midst of the packed week. Right now, I want to take the time to tell a little of my testimony. 

And Me? Me? Apart of God's story?

If you would've asked me this between Fall 2009 to 2011, I would have laughed in your face. Though I was raised as a Christian, I quickly forgot about God's sovereignty and pursued a life for myself. In college, I pursued things that I thought would give me power and status. I found my identity in great grades, guys, friends, my body/looks and what others thought of me.  I created idols out of these things and my heart was so hardened to God's voice. 

Even then, God still beckoned for me. In Fall 2011, those idols began to crash. I found myself in a whirlwind of confusion. One of my majors challenged me and I wasn't making perfect grades. I attended parties with the intentions of finding the perfect guy. I still didn't feel like I fit in with anyone. I had the hardest time wondering who I was supposed to be friends with on a mostly white campus. I gained and lost weight so fast. I walked around in a fog not knowing that I suffered from depression.I experienced so much emotional turmoil that I couldn't think straight. That winter break, I looked myself in the mirror and I vowed that a change had to occur. I knew I couldn't continue life that way. During that next semester, I joined a local church in Charlottesville and I started attending Intervarsity Christian Fellowship's Oneway chapter. For the first time, I found myself listening to the Word of God. In addition, I created friendships with people who truly loved me. 

During the Summer of 2012, I experienced another idol crashing down. Due to my concern with others' opinions, I took a job I shouldn't have taken. In those moments, I clearly knew I couldn't live at the hand of man-made items and fickle people/emotions. That summer, I spent every night and day studying the Bible. I deleted so much of my old music because I realized the lyrics shaped my thoughts. I started listening to Mali Music and Kari Jobe constantly. That summer I learned that I was God's and I was fearfully and wonderfully made. 

Since then, I have experienced so much peace, love, and joy in my heart. God has provided me with amazing friendships, restored relationships with family, career plans, purpose. I was once was lost...He found me. I wasn't perfect. Quite frankly, I was a hot mess as we say in the South haha. He met me there and changed my life so much in one year. I spent years creating a life for myself and God has orchestrated so many beautiful happenings in my life. I am grateful for the manifestations of some and I can't wait to share others very soon. 

So I just like Esther, Hannah,  Mary, and Ruth, I too am apart of this beautiful, amazing, joyful redemptive story. I am in this beautiful lineage. Every morning I wake up, I embrace it.. I live it...it fuels me.  

Sisters, brothers....you are apart of this story AND guess what? it doesn't matter where you are. It takes a willing heart and God will transform your life. 

At Urbana 15, David Platt delivered an amazing message. He said, "This is the life that counts - a life in love with Christ. Does your heart belong to Christ?"

All of these things....grades...people...plans...money...parties...cars....organizations....they don't matter. Yes, they complement you, but they don't identify you. Those things crumble, your identity is what stands. 

What story will you tell with your life? What identifies you? 

Please know you are already made precious. 

Take care!

xoxo,

Tonyette 

PS,

Want to talk? 

Email me at trw8aw@virginia.edu or follow me/ DM me on Instagram @speak_yoursoul 

Don't forget to breath

So after 3 weeks of chaos including three projects, two papers, two presentations, two finals, two counseling self evals, one research conference presentation, one 25th birthday, one (nasty) cold, I am finally finished with my first semester of graduate school. 

I can't say I was incredibly stressed like I was in undergrad because I know I am fulfilling my purpose. BUT I took it incredibly serious because I want to be the best school counselor I can be for my future students and I am paying for this education.  This semester, we've wrestled with a lot of hard topics including : poverty, school to the prison pipeline, tracking, gender inequity, ethics etc. Throughout this season, I was balancing all of these topics and I realized -  crap - I'm going to be responsible for these kids. By mid November, I spent a lot of time in tears and frustrations. NOT because I didn't think I could do it, but because I knew I needed to see the hard stuff to see my role. I knew I had to balance each piece of this profession. 

But you know...it wasn't until I breathed that I felt like could juggle
 each piece of this journey. I am being pruned and shaped for this position. 

Funny how the last four weeks are representative of life's struggles. We may get so bogged down in the many roles we have, the weight of the responsibilities...that we forget to breath.  We forget to see that the challenges we are facing or the journey we are taking are ultimately transforming us for the next step in life. We get caught up in the busyness of life...we don't breath, pause, and reflect.

Today, I randomly attended a yoga class and for the first time in three years, I finally appreciated the fullness of my breathing. Instead of focusing on my instructor twisting us into pretzels, I listened to her cues for breathing in and breathing out. I controlled my breathing....one...two...three...breath in....one...two...three...breath out. I felt the rise and fall of my chest...the expansion of my belly. Before I knew it, my mind was incredibly still. I didn't focus on the challenging poses, I focused on my breathing.  It was empowering to be in tune with the very faculty that gives us the blessing of life everyday.

Yes...the three weeks of chaos came and went. I definitely learned a great deal about balancing the great deal of information. Finals week(s) reminded me that it won't get easier. Life will throw many responsibilities and challenges at me. Life will throw many responsibilities and challenges at you. How will we deal? I will suggest sitting down to think about what makes you happy. Create a wellness plan for dealing with craziness and busyness (#selfcare) AND stick with it. 

Don't sacrifice your well-being for work and things that will always be there.

Instead,
    pause
    care for yourself
    and...
    don't forget to breath <3 

“The Lord Almighty has sworn, ‘Surely, as I have planned, so it will be and as I have purposed, so it will stand.’” — Isaiah 14:24

#tbt

Today,  I am reflecting on how far I've come as a person. The other day I rambled through my jewelry to find this lovely necklace. I begged my parents for a gold nameplate necklace when I was 14. I was obsessed with the nameplate earrings, rings, belt....and I am not ashamed to say I've owned each one of them in my life. The belt is definitely hiding in my closet, but I have all the others in my possession.

I haven't worn this necklace in about 3 years. I wore it briefly as an undergrad, but I stopped wearing it because I felt like it was a fad that no one followed anymore.  Thanks to my mom, she kept it in safe possession and it moved with me in August.

This necklace reminds me of a few things.  I am obsessed with names and labels. I believe there is something so special about a name/label. Even though we don't have much choice over our names at birth, we have the ability to embody those names or tag on definitions. My first name is completely made up lol. I love it though because it carries a piece of my dad. His name is Tony and it is rumored that I may have been named Tony Reginald for a few days. I am so glad my mom tagged on the -ette hahaha.  Good try dad!

I am also reminded of the labels I've embodied as a woman. I have not always seen myself in the most positive light. I've struggled with my personality, my nerdiness, my height, my body shape, my skin...I labeled myself as an outcast. For me, I am so glad that I embody a label that is so much deeper than the eye can see. I am free, redeemed, His, called out, not condemned. Due to the sweet love of my Father and His Son,  my identity is strong and anchored <3. 

This necklace also reminds me of my 14 year old self <3  I was an ambitious, passionate, and spunky little girl. Even though there has been a lot of challenges along the way, I am reminded of the girl who wanted to go to college and change the world. I am grateful for her bravery and resiliency and it has laid a foundation for how I identify and live my life now.

I turn 25 in less than a month and I am so thankful. Today I am choosing hold tight to that young girl and live golden like the shininess reflected off my necklace.

I am golden
        loved
        blessed
        favored

I am Tonyette 

Fall reminders // grow up & strong and embrace your hue

Hi everyone! 

It's been a while since I've posted - graduate school has been really hectic. I finally had some moments tonight where I intentionally took some time for myself. Over the past two weeks, I have been battling with what type of student I was and who I am now.  In undergrad here at UVA, there was definitely this mentality among college students that you have to forsake so much of yourself for the sake of making  a grade. I now know I am much more than a grade and my major. I now know that I am called to be a student for this season. I am Tonyette and I happen to be a graduate student. BUT, I am not defined by it - I define WHY I am here and WHAT I will do with my degree.

 In 2011, I definitely sacrificed my peace in order to be perfect and I blinked and the season changed. I literally....missed....Fall that year. I don't remember what happened, I just remember being in my thoughts and my world. I don't really remember much about anything, I was in a fog. While I am now able to label what happened to me as depression, I believe my actions and striving kept me from truly taking in the little moments of life. I was incredibly sad that I let my favorite season move past me.

 Although my memory was hazy, I remember one event that gave me a sense of hope and stillness. I attended Trick or Treating on the Lawn and as I watched happy children, dogs, and families, I was reminded of the beauty of human connection and love. I remember snapping photos of the entire lawn and I went back to that photo to remind myself to be still. 

On Friday I attended this event and I reflected on my life journey and growth. I laughed with my amazing classmates and witnessed the beauty of human connection and love. I saw the creativity manifested in the costumes and the love in the eyes of parents as they watched their children. The weather was crisp and cool and I felt the crunch of the leaves beneath my feet. Overall, Friday evening reminded me to be still and cherish the moments.

Fall is such a special season for me. It marks a time when I reflect on the last few weeks before my birthday. The scarves, boots, and tights become my besties. Most of all, the colors of the trees remind me of growth and change.  I find it amazing that trees just grow, they don't possess the means for comparison- they grow up and strong. In the fall, each tree is a different color - red, orange, gold, yellow, brown, burgundy, etc. They grow amongst one another, yet they are vastly different. 

I can't help to think that is the way we should look at the world.  Instead of comparing ourselves to the next person, what if we could grow up and strong and embrace our different hues? What if we happily watched our friends and family flourish as we thrive as well?

Don't allow life's circumstances or personal goals to stop you from seeing what is happening around you. Don't allow yourself to blink another moment without being present. 

May your joy be palpable. 

Trick or Treating on the Lawn 2015

Get up, get dressed, embrace the random and live in purpose.

For the past three weeks, I've been battling a really icky and horrible sinus infection. As a result, I just felt like I've been put behind in my relationships, school work, and physical upkeep. I spent the past week, preparing for tests and papers and I literally felt uneasy. I became very overwhelmed by cracking open a school book or researching for my papers. I realized that I wasn't leaning into my purpose and not giving myself grace. 

My friend recently reminded me that we do have to take our crafts seriously in order to fully operate in them. Whether that entails studying for a test, training for a marathon, or working a carnival as outreach, we have to take fully embrace the purpose. Yesterday I was reminded that I can give myself grace as I embrace my purpose.

I woke up and immediately threw on an outfit because I didn't know if I would be meeting my mentor at a cafe that morning or if I would be relocating to study. My mentor held Bible study here at my place and I kept this outfit on. At the end of the study, she told me she liked my outfit and we randomly had a mini photoshoot outside of my living community. I wore the outfit because it made me feel good.  In the randomness of the "shoot" - I was reminded to seize opportunities and embrace the here and now. 

Outfit:

Levi's Jean Jacket

Top from Marshall's 

Skirt from Old Navy 

Heels from J.Crew

Earrings and Necklace from Target 

I'm totally embracing the randomness and the here and now. 

Remember, no matter what season you are in, you still have purpose <3

xoxo,

Tonyette

THE Graduate School App Process!

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For the past two months, I had this bright idea to write this post. Funny how....graduate school has definitely been in way haha. After working as a college adviser AND applying to graduate school at the same time, I realized how challenging it actually was. I thought "oh...I've done this before AND I talk about college all the time...this will be a breeze" and honestly it was incredibly challenging. It literally took 7 months of energy AND I worked full time.

For me personally, I only looked at Masters of Education degree programs for Counselor Education. As a result, I will only talk from the experience I have in applying to these programs. If I could condense my graduate application experience - I would definitely sum of 8 points you can consider :) 

1.) Don't force yourself in a box and heavily consider your professional interests: Many graduate school programs are geared toward training for a profession or giving you extensive background on a specific topic.  During my last year of undergrad, I did try to apply to graduate schools (I did apply to one program), but I honestly only did it because I thought it was what I was supposed to do. Throughout my entire life I only thought about college and never my career. I was so grateful that I did not decide to enroll in program! I realized that I was not mature enough and I honestly did not know what I wanted to do.I am so grateful I took two years and worked. Through my work narrative, I discovered my heart for adolescents.   Don't force yourself to apply if your heart isn't it it. Please cognizant of your passions and dreams. You will be training or studying the topic extensively for 1 to 2 years. 

Although I decided to wait, I have plenty of friends who decided to go straight to graduate school. These young ladies and men are passionate about their disciplines.  In short, reflect on your passion and heart for a topic before committing to it <3 

....whew....let me get off my soapbox

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2.)Research and Visit Schools : Research for Master's programs is definitely interesting.  While researching program, many website contained concise information.  Usually the sites will give you a sense of the mission, the application requirements (GRE, Recommendation, personal statement)As a result, I would suggest visiting the schools before you apply, email the professors or directors, or take advantage of online webinars or information sessions.  

3.) STUDY for the GRE :  I am laughing at this one because I honestly thought that this test was my chance of redemption for my poor SAT/ACT study habits. This time around, I bought myself a study book and made flash cards. The Cracking the GRE study guide was definitely my " bae" during Fall 2014. As I look back, I don't  think it helped much with math, but it definitely prepared me for the Verbal and Analytical Writing sections. I would suggest the Kaplan GRE study guide because it really has higher reviews than the Princeton Review.  Try to limit your studying to a certain timeframe to insure you retain the techniques (1- 1/2 months). I studied from very late September to mid November. After 1 1/2 months of studying I think I hit my study threshold...or tolerance haha. REMEMBER the GRE is a test measuring your ability to analyze and use certain techniques to answer the problems - not a test measuring your ability to memorize.

4.) Reach out to potential recommenders EARLY :  I contacted my former professors and supervisors in early September to let them know I would be applying to graduate school. In addition, I followed up in late October and November to let them know I would be using their information in my application.

5.) Write your heart on your sleeve : When writing your personal statements - BE PERSONAL. Write about your personal experiences and don't be afraid to brag on yourself and your background. Make sure you address every piece of the topic and adhere to the word limits. In addition, pull in key pieces from the program and address how the program will shape you and what you could give to the program (if applicable). 

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6.) Interview:In contrast to the undergraduate application process, most programs will want to schedule an interview with you!  You will either be invited or the interview will be a part of the application process. Some schools may not conduct interviews. I encountered all three cases! Stay flexible and confident during the interview process. I had interviews that were canceled due to snowstorms.  Flexibility is key when you have to  reschedule or travel a lot. Read up on the program or brainstorm possible interview questions. Survey your closet and see if you have appropriate business or business casual wear (I would suggest this be done a week in advance). Try to strike a balance between your individual style and professionalism. For my interview days, I wore a black cardigan, a black top with ruffled sleeves (I thought it represented my personal style), gray slacks, and heels ( bring flats ladies).  During interview day, truly consider whether the program and professors will fit your needs. BE CONFIDENT and OWN YOUR BACKGROUND! 

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7.) Follow your heart: When you receive your acceptances, consider which program will fit your needs, your learning style and your personality. Definitely consider tuition rates, job opportunities, and environment.  Personally, I would encourage you to follow your heart when picking your program.  I ended up coming back to my Alma Mater. I was super passionate about experiencing a different campus. I tried to rationalize why I should go elsewhere. I realized this program was the one for me. I am so incredibly grateful for my awesome professors and my cohort.  

8.) Say Thanks : Write thank you notes to your recommenders and verbally thank those who supported you through the process. My parents, sister, friends, and co-workers were so amazing during the process. 

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I really hope this was helpful and I tried to give my honest advice about the graduate school application process. Feel free to email me at tonyettew@gmail.com if you have any questions OR leave a question or comment at the end of this post.

xoxo,

Tonyette

Outfit of the Day - Darling Edition :)

Hi everyone!

I hope you all are doing well! Just wanted to stop by with a quick OOTD for this beautiful Sunday afternoon.

I can't believe it is almost Fall! I absolutely LOVE this season and the weather. 

Last week a friend and I stumbled upon this beautiful consignment shop called Darling on the Downtown mall in Charlottesville. When I walked in - I was drawn by the layout of the store and just the beautiful, reaffirming sayings on the walls and the dressing room doors for every women to see. The owners are Linnea and Megan and they carefully pick their pieces to fit many different women. In addition, they sell the furniture which holds the clothes, as well as beautiful jewelry, soaps, cards from local artisans. 

All photos taken directly from ShopatDarling.com

This particular shop really sparked my interest in really sharpening my style and my sorta-kinda capsule wardrobe. I am currently in the process of rebuilding my wardrobe. I gave away almost all of my things. It really just hit me that I don't really have the comfort of excess clothing. In August, it felt right because I needed a fresh perspective that was free from clutter. That is still the case right now, but it is a little daunting to have to get creative with my clothes and not spend a lot. 

So when I found out about Darling, I definitely felt like I was at home. I love consignment shops and thrifting, but I really lost touch with it in the last three years. Since I am now rebuilding my closet, it want to carefully purchase things I like for great prices. Darling presented me with an opportunity to do so! 

I knew I needed more white/cream in my closet and I found J.Crew silk blouse for less than 12 dollars! I finally wore it today to church. I love the blouse, but I was having a mental block because I was freaking out about how many clothes I didn't have anymore :/ I decided to pair it with jeans, heels, and a blazer. I really received a lot of compliments and I thought it was really a blessing due to the fact that I didn't think I paired the shirt that well this morning. 

Here's a photo!

I paired the top with an Express blazer (purchased at Marshall's), Levi jeans (purchased at Marshall's) and J.Crew heels (purchased at J.Crew Clearance Center in Lynchburg  VA.) I am loving my new blouse and this will definitely be a staple for the Fall. 

Make sure you check out Darling's website which is full of updates, styling tips, and blog posts.

I also snapped this photo before leaving the store 

I truly believe this is fitting in how we can create beautiful things by exercising our creativity. 

xoxo, 

Tonyette

Transitions and New Seasons

Hi all:)

I am still blogging, there's just been A LOT of things going on since mid-July.  As Alana knows, I have done a lot of self-reflection in regards to myself, the people around me, and God's role in all of this.  I can't say that August was the easiest, but I have grown a lot.

 In addition to heavy reflection, I tremendously downsized my closet. After realizing how much stuff I accumulated and just the heaviness I felt, I needed to declutter all parts of my life - starting with my closet. When I moved back home, I was so blown away and embarrassed by all the clothes I had (I needed more than 2 closets). I couldn't believe I allowed myself to not use so much. I basically sold some clothes and gave away the rest. I am still trying to process my closet and it's much smaller size. I also sold a lot of things and recycled a bunch of papers I held onto. I didn't to move to my new city with a lot of stuff. I truly wanted my new season to be reminiscent of where I am right now as a person. I want to live light, pack light, and be Christ's light <3 

I am in graduate school and I am in a counselor education program. I looooove it. I want to do a post on my process of applying to schools and finding the perfect program.

I am hoping to post very soon - within the next week or so. Hang tight

btw, what would happen if our faith allowed us to keep our hopes up? What if they were so high and beautiful?

xoxo,

Tonyette

Nails 101: The Basics of Grooming

I get a lot of questions about my nails. I've always done my own nails and I have never been to a salon to get them done. At this point, I feel as if I don't need to pay anyone to give me a manicure. Through trial and error over the years I have come up with many tips and trips that help me to achieve a professional looking manicure without the salon price tag. I'm going to have a few posts all about nails to answer a lot of the questions I've gotten over the years.

For the first nail related post, I'm going to start with the basics of grooming the nail to prep it for painting.

Tools Needed:

1.     Crystal Nail File

2.     Cuticle Trimmer

3.     Cuticle Remover

4.     Cuticle Stick

5.     Cuticle Cream/Balm

6.     Hand Cream

Step One: Cuticles

The key to a polished, professional looking manicure is neatly groomed cuticles. When the cuticles are over grown and ragged, it can make the entire manicure look sloppy. Think of your cuticles as the picture frame that ties everything together. You wouldn't put a $1 plastic frame on the Mona Lisa, would you?

1.     The first thing I use to keep my cuticles in check is a cuticle trimmer . There are some people who are avidly against cuticle trimmers. What it does is trim the excess skin off, making the cuticle instantly shorter and neater. However, it can make the cuticle grow back faster and thicker. I don't have any issues with this, mainly because I do this weekly and this is not the sole method I use to groom my cuticles. Please be careful when using a cuticle trimmer. Use it to trim off the dead skin around the nail like hangnails, or any skin that has grown over the nail and is starting to lift off. You DO NOT want to press down too hard or cut into the cuticle bed. This could cause damage to the cuticle bed and also cause infection. That is why I am a fan of the cuticle trimmer from Revlon that is linked above. It’s not too dull or too sharp, which prevents you from going a little crazy; it will just get the dead skin. If you are anti-cuticle trimmers, then by all means skip this step.

2.     The second thing I use on my cuticles is a gel cuticle remover. My current favorite is the Sally Hansen Instant Cuticle Remover. After I've trimmed my cuticles, I apply a small amount of the cuticle remover to each cuticle and then spread it around with a cuticle stick. I let it sit for about a minute and then gently use the cuticle stick remove any extra dead skin and push the cuticle back. Wipe this off and then wash your hands. Think of this step as if you're exfoliating the nail. It gently lifts up dead skin cells, leaving the cuticles neat and the nail nicely groomed.

Step Two: Filing and Shaping the Nail

It's time to put down the nail clippers and the sand paper emery boards. In my opinion, the best way to shorten, shape and file your nails is with a crystal file. Nail clippers can cause the nail to split and peel, especially for those with weak nails. Emery boards can also be too rough on the nail and cause splitting. I personally never cared for how emery boards feel against my nail while filing. A quality glass file effectively shortens the nail through filing and creates a smooth edge with no splitting or peeling. Over time, you'll have stronger nails. A glass file can also last a life time, that is if you don't drop it! I paid about $7 for a quality glass file on Amazon back on 2011 and it's still going strong. You may initially think that paying upwards of $10 for a nail file is a tad ridiculous, but I assure you, it’s a great investment and will pay for itself, as it should last you a lifetime opposed to constantly purchasing emery boards that need to be replaced often.

To shape my nails, I simply file back and forth in a straight line. Some suggest that you should only file in one direction because the back and forth motion can weaken the nail. I have never experienced this, but file in whichever direction you prefer and works best for you.

My favorite nail shape is a short, square nail. I file the nail down in a straight line to the desired length and then softly round out the edges so the points of the nail aren’t to sharp. You may need to take the glass file and gently run it underneath the nail to remove any nail remnants from filing.

**QUICK TIP: To best achieve the perfect shape of whatever your desire nail shape may be (round, pointed, square, etc.), file your nails right before removing you old manicure. This way, you won't get distracted by you natural nail line, which naturally grows out unevenly. Having nail polish already on the nail when you file helps you to really see the shape you are making!

Step Three: Moisturize!

You can file your nails perfectly and have pristine cuticles, but if you aren't constantly pampering and moisturizing your hands afterwards, it's a bit of a waste. To maintain the health of your nails you need to moisturize them and do it often!

·      Cuticle Creams: Cuticle creams are especially formulated with the cuticles in mind. They are often times richer and more concentrated than hand creams and also have ingredients that help to strengthen nails. Consistent use of a cuticle cream helps to prevent peeling and splitting nails, dry and peeling cuticles and hang nails.

o   Recommendations:

1.     Burt's Bees Lemon Butter Cuticle Cream. This is a staple product for me. It has a light, fresh lemon scent and does an excellent job of moisturizing and nourishing cuticles. I prefer to use this during the day, throughout the day as I remember. If my nails are being temperamental and are peeling just a bit, this sorts it out. It has more of a balm texture than that of a cream, so it's not heavy or sticky on this skin. A little goes a long way and at just $5-6 per tin, you can't beat the value!

2.     Christian Dior Abricot Nail Creme. I discovered this heavy-duty gem this past winter when it was so cold and so dry outside that my hands literally hurt from how dry my skin was. None of my lotions and potions were saving my skin. I stumbled upon the Christian Dior Abricot Nail Creme online and it had great reviews so I decided to take the plunge; a $27 plunge. I know! I know! But it was so worth it! This product is heavy, thick, rich, emollient and all those good words! Because it is so gooey, it is suggested for nighttime use. When applied at night before bed, it brings your cuticles back to life the next morning and the more you use it, the better the results. I don't much care for the smell, but I'll deal with it because I no longer have to suffer from dry winter skin. Never underestimate the power of eBay. Check there so see if you can find it for a few bucks cheaper.

·      Hand Creams: Much like cuticle creams, avidly using hand creams keeps your hands in tip-top shape. They moisturize the nails and cuticles, but predominately keep your hands soft and provide a line of defense against the elements when used regularly, throughout the day.

o   Recommendations:

1.     LUSH Helping Hands. I also discovered this product this past winter when my hands were painfully dry. I was in the market for a heavier hand cream to use at night and this fit the bill. It has soothing ingredients like chamomile, marigold and lavender to provide relief for painful hands. A little goes a long way and I always wake up with super soft hands the next morning. This is on the pricey side; 3.5 ounces will set you back $18.95, but it's a quality product with wholesome ingredients that will last you a while. Side note: I recently applied this to sunburned arms at night and woke up with soothed skin that was not angry and pink. Brillant!

2.  Crabtree & Evelyn Verbana and Lavender Hand Therapy. Any scent/formulation of the Crabtree & Evelyn hand creams is good so just pick your poison! Right now I'm really into the Verbana and Lavender scent; it's bright but warm. These hand creams are not too heavy so they are great for daytime use. They just get the job done. The 3.5 ounce tubes retail for $22, but I often find them at my local TJ Maxx for around $7, so when I see them, I stock up!

I know this post was long, but I hope it was helpful! I have a few more of these Nail 101 posts planned, so keep your eyes peels for the next post in the series on how to actually paint your nails perfectly (probably the top question I'm asked!).

- Alana